We Can Change Our World

We can’t bring back those who have died despite how hard we pray. But we can make the best of what we have left. We have to trust that what we want in life will keep unfolding. The key is to focus and keep focusing on what we want. Ask for it and believe we will get it. Don’t be discouraged if we don’t get it right away. If you want it enough, it will happen when the time is right. But we have to believe it will and not let negativity creep back into our thoughts. 

Don’t look too far ahead, remember we don’t have to see the whole road. We only need to see far enough ahead to see where we are heading and to keep us on the path. Take it one day at a time.  

We have lost someone very important to us but (regardless of what we sometimes think) we haven’t lost everything. As soon as we feel differently about what we have, we will attract more of the good things. The things that make us happy. So be thankful and give gratitude for what we have now. Believe in and ask for what we want. Remember, we have the power to change our world. 

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” ~ Buddha

Autobiography Of My Life In 5 Chapters

No one knows who wrote this but I love it.

Autobiography Of My Life In 5 Chapters

Chapter 1.

I walk down the street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost..I am hopeless
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter 2.

I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I pretend I don’t see it
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I’m in the same place
But it isn’t my fault
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter 3.

I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I see it is there.
I still fall in, it’s a habit
My eyes are open I know where I am
It is my fault
I get out immediately.

Chapter 4.

I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I walk around it.

Chapter 5.

I walk down another street.

Life is often like that. We are faced with numerous events in our life that can throw us of course. We fall into a deep hole and it’s sometimes very hard to get out but we have to try. Often it isn’t our fault. Losing a loved one is definitely not our fault but many of us plunge into the deepest of holes as a result. However with perseverance and patience we will succeed.

Life in general can be very unfair at times. But we can’t just keep blaming someone else. It’s up to us to deal with the cards we are dealt harsh as that may seem. We must always remember....

If Only We Had Known

Yesterday a meme was shared with my support group. It read:

“The death of a spouse or partner is different than other losses in the sense that it literally changes every single thing in your world going forward. When your spouse dies, the way you eat changes. The way you watch TV changes. Your friend circle changes (or disappears entirely). Your family dynamic/life changes (or disappears entirely). Your financial status changes. Your job situation changes. It effects your self-worth, your self-esteem, your confidence, the way you breathe and your mentality. Your brain function changes. Have you heard of the term ‘widow brain’? If you don’t know what that is, count yourself very lucky. Your physical body, your hobbies and your interests change. Your sense of security. Your sense of humour. Your sense of womanhood or manhood. EVERY, SINGLE THING CHANGES. You are handed a new life that you never asked for and that you don’t particularly want. It is the hardest, most gut-wrenching, horrific, life-altering of things to live with.”

I am sharing this in my blog for no other reason than perhaps it will help others to understand what losing a life partner is like. Until I was faced with it myself I had no idea.

My brother and I were talking on the topic this week. He is battling losing a son in tragic circumstances nine months ago. We both said we wished we had understood the enormity of what people face before I had to learn the hard way. If we had, we would have been more understanding and a better son and daughter when our mum died. We would have been a better brother and sister-in-law when my sister died. Even better friends when others have lost husbands and wives. We won’t make the same mistakes again.

I’m one of the fortunate ones. I’ve not had to deal with financial challenges but I have experienced everything else. It can overwhelm. It is even harder when death is sudden and unexpected as it was in my case because we have no time to plan or to prepare ourselves.

Life experiences teaches us something if we bother to take the time to understand what the lesson is. As a deeply private person learning to open up and to share experiences has been one of the lessons for me. So if sharing this it helps just one person to be more understanding and supportive then sharing has been worthwhile.